Many of my clients fall into the category known as the “sandwich” generation : they are caring for their aging parents, while still caring for their own families. Assessing the care your parents need is a matter of observation. The AARP has a good article outlining 35 questions you should ask about your parents. It covers areas such as healthcare, estate planning and finances. One of the important questions to ask is about your parents thought on end-of-life decisions, and whether or not they have an Advance Medical Directive.
Many of my clients live out-of-state, and find my office on the Internet. They will tell me that they haven’t seen mom or dad for a few months, and came to Ocean County for a visit. When they have a chance to observe what’s going on, there are surprised to find that their parents are not doing as well as they thought. Its easier to see the changes in our parents when we don’t see them for extended periods of time, but if your parents live close by, and you see them often, the subtle changes in their needs may go without notice. Its a good idea to go through this checklist once a year and see if your parents care needs have changed.